Although the culture of hooking up began with the gay community, some still find it difficult to embrace it or find what they want out of it. This can be discouraging. An important thing to remember is that hooking up can be dangerous; therefore, you should be careful when looking for hookups, especially on the internet. Here are some tips to help you get started with gay hookups.
1. Don’t Let Emotions Control You
Some of the stories you hear or read online about gay hookups are not entirely true. There are obvious negative sides to hooking up, but for those who have been in this for a long time, they have learned to ignore them. However, as a beginner, it can be hard to ignore some things especially if you attach your emotions to your sexual relationships.
Some people, especially those on gay dating apps and websites, are only interested in what they want and not what you want. All they want is to know what you can offer them to fulfill their needs. They will never ask you what you desire because their interest in not your needs but theirs. This is what you should not come into the hooking up arena with your emotions.
2. Don’t Let Your Face Show When Sending Nudes
The purpose of a hookup is to experiment and go wild. Things can get really hot when chatting online and you end up exchanging nudes. When it gets there, make sure your face doesn’t show clearly in the photos. Do not give a total stranger complete control over your nude and sexy photos with your face clearly showing. They could use them to blackmail or even embarrass you, especially if it’s clear to them that you don’t want others to know about it.
However, you can establish trust with someone and feel comfortable sending them nudes because they are also doing the same. Such people can’t use your images against you because they know you can do the same to them too.
3. Be Forward
People are very forward in gay hookup circles. You will come across people who will simply send you a naked photo even before your conversations start. To do well in these circles, you have to be ready for such people and be willing to embrace the principles.
Sure, there are those who like the shy type at first, but eventually, they get bored with that. When someone sends you a nude, make sure to send one in return and have fine in your conversations. After all, that’s why you are there. If they see that you are not comfortable with the type of conversations they want, they will leave your chat and go to someone else. This is how things work on gay hookup websites; there are no emotions here.
4. Be Open-minded
The first thing to do before getting into the gay hookup world is to be okay with the idea. If you don’t like it or have doubts, don’t do it because it won’t work. Being anxious is normal as a beginner, and as long as you are coming into this with an open mind, the anxiety will go away. You have to know what it is that is driving you into the hookup circle. Is it sex, loneliness, or anything else?
Whatever your reason, it is important to stay focused on your desires. Some people will discourage you from getting into gay hookup websites, but don’t let that affect you. Remember you want something out of the experience, and as long as it makes you happy and fulfills you, go for it.
5. Be Yourself
Everyone is different, and someone else’s experience on these websites cannot be the same as yours. Do not pay too much attention to what others say about their experiences. This will eliminate the disappointments that come with going into hookups with expectations. In the same way, someone’s bad experiences cannot be yours. Remember to be yourself as that could be exactly what someone else is looking for.
While being forward is ok and encouraged in gay hookups, it’s important to take your time before meeting a stranger in person. All first meetings should take place in a public area.